{"id":2202,"date":"2015-07-02T20:54:36","date_gmt":"2015-07-02T20:54:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/keblog.demoapp.xyz\/?p=2202"},"modified":"2022-10-19T03:58:47","modified_gmt":"2022-10-19T03:58:47","slug":"how-to-network-if-you-hate-networking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/how-to-network-if-you-hate-networking","title":{"rendered":"How to Network If You Hate Networking"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sweaty palms, shifty glances around the room, nervous laughter, and wait, was that some snickering directed at your back? No, you\u2019re not at your 5<sup>th<\/sup> grade dance recital nor are you having a dream about standing in front of your class naked. You\u2019re at a networking event, which may be worse than either scenario.<\/p>\n<p>Networking is a necessary evil your career needs in order to thrive. Whether you\u2019re at the start of your career or you\u2019ve been around your industry for what feels like a hundred years, you\u2019ll still need a helping hand. There will come a time in your career when you will need to tap your network for help. Whether it\u2019s to get a new job or to contact a resource person, it pays to know a well-placed friend or two.<\/p>\n<p>But not everyone is good at introducing themselves to someone point blank. Networking can be awkward and uncomfortable, especially at the start of your career when you don\u2019t really know what you\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n<p>As the saying goes, it\u2019s not really what you know, but who you know. Here&#8217;s how to network if you hate networking.<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_26 counter-hierarchy\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">TOPICS<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"display: none;\"><label for=\"item\" aria-label=\"Table of Content\"><i class=\"ez-toc-glyphicon ez-toc-icon-toggle\"><\/i><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\" id=\"item\"><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class=\"ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1\"><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/how-to-network-if-you-hate-networking\/#Start_with_the_things_you_love\" title=\"Start with the things you love\">Start with the things you love<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/how-to-network-if-you-hate-networking\/#Dont_dive_in_with_a_sales_pitch\" title=\"Don\u2019t dive in with a sales pitch\">Don\u2019t dive in with a sales pitch<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/how-to-network-if-you-hate-networking\/#Arrive_early\" title=\"Arrive early\">Arrive early<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/how-to-network-if-you-hate-networking\/#Create_goals\" title=\"Create goals\">Create goals<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/how-to-network-if-you-hate-networking\/#Find_strength_in_numbers\" title=\"Find strength in numbers\">Find strength in numbers<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/how-to-network-if-you-hate-networking\/#Talk_to_wallflowers\" title=\"Talk to wallflowers\">Talk to wallflowers<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Start_with_the_things_you_love\"><\/span><strong>Start with the things you love<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Networking events can be intimidating. It can feel like entering an arena with fellow gladiators who are looking to impress each other. But you don\u2019t even need to go to these events to network. Networking can happen anywhere. It can happen at your Tita\u2019s Sunday lunch with her friends or at your class reunion.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/money.usnews.com\/money\/blogs\/outside-voices-careers\/2013\/08\/29\/how-to-network-when-you-hate-networking\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Tap into your hobbies and interests and network while doing something you enjoy<\/a>. Meeting people while doing the things that you love can diffuse the tension of networking. You\u2019ll be with people with similar interests so it will be easier to start a conversation. Whether it\u2019s volunteering for a non-profit or mountain climbing, the rapport that you build with them will feel more genuine. No matter how diverse your interests are, you\u2019re bound to meet someone in your industry.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Dont_dive_in_with_a_sales_pitch\"><\/span><strong>Don\u2019t dive in with a sales pitch<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Nothing can make a networking interaction more awkward than by instantly going in for the kill.<\/p>\n<p>Opening a conversation with \u201cHi, I\u2019m Miguel and I\u2019m looking for a job in app development\u201d will turn people off. Remember, your goal is to build relationships. And how does one usually begin a relationship? By engaging a person on a personal level.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you\u2019re meeting your dad\u2019s friend who\u2019s in your industry or you\u2019re at your college\u2019s alumni gathering, it\u2019s best to begin with a friendly conversation. Start slow and build a rapport over a neutral topic then eventually move on to a more professional discussion. If you\u2019re at a networking event, don\u2019t begin a conversation by shoving your business card at every person you meet. Start conversations about your industry or about the talk given at an event, if one was given.<\/p>\n<p>This will also take the pressure off of feeling like you have to sell yourself. Starting a genuine conversation will help you focus on the people and not the credentials.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Arrive_early\"><\/span><strong>Arrive early<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Walking into a room full of strangers and jumping into conversations isn\u2019t everyone\u2019s cup of tea. As Pinoys, our default arrival time at events tends to be rather late. When you arrive late at these events, people may have already settled into conversation groups and it can be hard to jump in and catch up with their topic.<\/p>\n<p>Try arriving at networking events on time or a bit early. When the event isn\u2019t in full swing yet, people are more laid back and are still actively looking for new faces. There aren\u2019t any solid groups yet. It\u2019s easier to start conversations solo than with a whole group of new faces.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Create_goals\"><\/span><strong>Create goals<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Another way to make networking more bearable is to make a game out of it.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/news\/networking-advice-for-people-who-hate-networking\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Set goals for yourself<\/a> at every networking event you go to so you can set a personal challenge for yourself and at the same time, have a way to measure your progress. You can start with \u201cI will have a meaningful conversation with three people in my industry\u201d or \u201cI will start a conversation with two people who aren\u2019t in my age group.\u201d It will help you focus and push you out of your comfort zone without you even noticing.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Find_strength_in_numbers\"><\/span><strong>Find strength in numbers<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>If you feel uneasy dealing with a crowd of unfamiliar faces, then <a href=\"http:\/\/money.usnews.com\/money\/blogs\/outside-voices-careers\/2013\/08\/29\/how-to-network-when-you-hate-networking\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">bring a friend or two along with you<\/a>. Having a buddy around when you start conversations can make the experience more pleasant since you already have a good rapport going.<\/p>\n<p>However, remember not to cling on to your friend for the entire event. They are there to complement your company and not to be your safety net. Try starting the event introducing yourself with your friend as a warm up. Then when you get the hang of it, split up with them and mingle on your own. You\u2019re there to build new relationships with new people, and not to catch up with your friends.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Talk_to_wallflowers\"><\/span><strong>Talk to wallflowers<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>If you want to start slow, you can begin by talking to fellow shy people. Everyone can be shy at some point. That quiet man in the corner may be a high-ranking executive at a company in your field. He\u2019s just a tad shy at jumping into a conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Like you, they\u2019re not experienced at socializing with the other people at events. They are more open to being approached because they don\u2019t know how to begin a conversation with other attendees. You won\u2019t overwhelm each other because you\u2019re both testing the waters with networking.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Networking can be an uncomfortable experience, but with enough practice you\u2019ll get the hang of it. And if you start early in your career, you\u2019ll soon be one of those networking experts you see at events. Got a networking tip that works well for you? Share it in the comments below!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sweaty palms, shifty glances around the room, nervous laughter, and wait, was that some snickering directed at your back? No, you\u2019re not at your 5th grade dance recital nor are you having a dream about standing in front of your class naked. You\u2019re at a networking event, which may be worse than either scenario. 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