{"id":2520,"date":"2015-02-18T23:00:01","date_gmt":"2015-02-18T23:00:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/keblog.demoapp.xyz\/?p=2520"},"modified":"2022-10-19T03:58:59","modified_gmt":"2022-10-19T03:58:59","slug":"some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work","title":{"rendered":"12 Ways To Handle Toxic People At Work"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Wait! Stop! Before you start reading this article, please check your surroundings. The toxic person at work whose job description seemingly includes \u201ctormenting you\u201d may not like it. Heck, it could probably further infuriate him or her, adding to the seemingly dark cloud of negativity they carry along when they act in a toxic way.<\/p>\n<p>These are the people who can act like your run-of-the-mill <em>teleserye<\/em> villain \u2013 doling out gossip like it was an Olympic sport, scheming selfish plans, conflict-creating, shaming others, and (feel free to add another action word here based on your experience).<\/p>\n<p>What can you do about these&#8230;unique individuals? Before shifting into victim mode (\u201cWoe is me!\u201d) or wishing a fairy godmother to turn them into frogs, the good news is you can do some things \u2013 a lot actually \u2013 by taking a cue from <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/pulse\/20141020140349-50578967-how-successful-people-handle-toxic-people\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">this article by Dr. Travis Bradberry<\/a><\/strong>,\u00a0author and President at <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.talentsmart.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">TalentSmart<\/a><\/strong>, where he outlines 12 strategies used by successful people while adding one more important point to keep in mind \u2013 <em>you are in control of far more than you realize:<\/em><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_26 counter-hierarchy\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">TOPICS<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"display: none;\"><label for=\"item\" aria-label=\"Table of Content\"><i class=\"ez-toc-glyphicon ez-toc-icon-toggle\"><\/i><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\" id=\"item\"><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class=\"ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1\"><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#1_Set_limits_especially_with_complainers\" title=\"1. Set limits (especially with complainers)\">1. Set limits (especially with complainers)<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#2_Dont_die_in_the_fight\" title=\"2. Don\u2019t die in the fight\">2. Don\u2019t die in the fight<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#3_Rise_above\" title=\"3. Rise above\">3. Rise above<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#4_Stay_aware_of_your_emotions\" title=\"4. Stay aware of your emotions\">4. Stay aware of your emotions<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#5_Establish_boundaries\" title=\"5. Establish boundaries\">5. Establish boundaries<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#6_Dont_let_anyone_limit_your_joy\" title=\"6. Don\u2019t let anyone limit your joy\">6. Don\u2019t let anyone limit your joy<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#7_Dont_focus_on_problems_-_only_solutions\" title=\"7. Don&#8217;t focus on problems \u2014 only solutions\">7. Don&#8217;t focus on problems \u2014 only solutions<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#8_Dont_forget\" title=\"8. Don\u2019t forget\">8. Don\u2019t forget<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#9_Squash_negative_self-talk\" title=\"9. Squash negative self-talk\">9. Squash negative self-talk<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#10_Limit_caffeine_intake\" title=\"10. Limit caffeine intake\">10. Limit caffeine intake<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#11_Get_some_sleep\" title=\"11. Get some sleep\">11. Get some sleep<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#12_Have_a_support_system\" title=\"12. Have a\u00a0support system\">12. Have a\u00a0support system<\/a><ul class=\"ez-toc-list-level-3\"><li class=\"ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/neo-blog.kalibrr.com\/blog\/some-ways-to-handle-toxic-people-at-work\/#Sign_up_on_Kalibrr_today_and_find_the_right_job_for_you_You_can_also_subscribe_to_our_weekly_newsletter_and_get_Kalibrr_Career_Advice_straight_from_your_inbox\" title=\"Sign up on Kalibrr today and find the right job for you. You can also subscribe to our weekly newsletter and get Kalibrr Career Advice straight from your inbox!\">Sign up on Kalibrr today and find the right job for you. You can also subscribe to our weekly newsletter and get Kalibrr Career Advice straight from your inbox!<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Set_limits_especially_with_complainers\"><\/span><strong>1. Set limits (especially with complainers)<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Since complainers and negative people are fond of extending an invitation to their pity party to unload about how they feel and in return, feel better, successful people draw the line when necessary, knowing the difference between taking the time to listen to toxic people versus getting burdened by their need to vent. Dr. Bradberry suggests asking \u201cHow do you intend to fix the problem?\u201d to break up the pity party.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Dont_die_in_the_fight\"><\/span><strong>2. Don\u2019t die in the fight<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Not all battles are worth fighting for. Remember that not every interaction that pushes your buttons is a battleground, unless the situation calls for one to speak up when necessary.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Rise_above\"><\/span><strong>3. Rise above<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Distance yourself emotionally. Sure, you can take a few cracks at hearing out their thoughts but you have a choice to respond only to facts and valid points made.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Stay_aware_of_your_emotions\"><\/span><strong>4. Stay aware of your emotions<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Know and see how you feel. Taking control of your emotions prevents you from reactive and sometimes regrettable behavior.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Establish_boundaries\"><\/span><strong>5. Establish boundaries<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Set and maintain your boundaries and make sure they are clear to those around you. Yes, this is an area that is under your control.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Dont_let_anyone_limit_your_joy\"><\/span><strong>6. Don\u2019t let anyone limit your joy<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Your happiness is not derived from the opinions of people around you \u2013 toxic or otherwise. You alone are the cause of your own happiness and well-being. This doesn\u2019t mean being oblivious to different points of view, but one can truly be happy only when one takes proactive steps to cultivate happiness within.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Dont_focus_on_problems_-_only_solutions\"><\/span><strong>7. Don&#8217;t focus on problems \u2014 only solutions<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>What you focus on grows. Stop focusing on the number of times this difficult person has been for the past week or year and work on finding solutions to employ in dealing with the problem.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8_Dont_forget\"><\/span><strong>8. Don\u2019t forget<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Yes, successful people, in handling toxic people, can let go and are quick to forgive erring officemates, but it doesn\u2019t mean they forget. They don&#8217;t bear a grudge forever; it is just a means of not being hampered by past faults.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9_Squash_negative_self-talk\"><\/span><strong>9. Squash negative self-talk<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Your thoughts are powerful, so it would be best to feed yourself an ample diet of positive self-talk. Be your own best friend and best teammate.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10_Limit_caffeine_intake\"><\/span><strong>10. Limit caffeine intake<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Caffeine can put you in fight-or-flight mode, putting rational thinking in the backseat in favor of a knee jerk reaction.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11_Get_some_sleep\"><\/span><strong>11. Get some sleep<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Get more acquainted with your bed via some much-needed shut eye. It helps increase your emotional quotient (EQ) and tones down your stress levels. We all know how being sleep-deprived makes us feel, right?<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"12_Have_a_support_system\"><\/span><strong>12. Have a\u00a0support system<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Ask for help because valuable help is available in the form of <strong><a title=\"Why You Need Friends At Work\" href=\"\/blog\/why-you-need-friends-at-work\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">caring friends and teammates who have your best interests in mind<\/a><\/strong>. Never overlook the words of encouragement and the added perspective your support system can bring.<\/p>\n<p>Try out these strategies these coming days and hopefully, a more harmonious relationship with these folks at the office will head your way.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Sign_up_on_Kalibrr_today_and_find_the_right_job_for_you_You_can_also_subscribe_to_our_weekly_newsletter_and_get_Kalibrr_Career_Advice_straight_from_your_inbox\"><\/span><em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.kalibrr.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Sign up on Kalibrr<\/a> today and find the right job for you. 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